(7 Tips To Overcome Attachment And Let Go)

Love is one of the best feelings you will ever get to experience in the world. It comes into our lives often unexpectedly, and suddenly things change. Were smiling often, finding happiness in the strangest of things, and beaming all around. With love comes attachment, and this often stems from our connection with the other person. Most often, we feel attached to others in a certain way, because of our feelings and emotions for them. However, when the other person doesn't reciprocate our feelings, we find the process of letting go strenuous and almost impossible. What would you do if I told you there's a way to hold lightly onto things you love, to save you the suffering when it's gone? In this article, we look at ways to overcome being attached to others, and how to enjoy our lives while we let them go. In some cases, we develop attachments to people we aren't romantically involved with, and such new connections can cause us to fall deeply for them without even realizing it.

Tips To Overcome Attachment And Let Go

1. Focus on the attachment itself

In order to work towards a state of non-attachment, it is imperative that you focus on attachment in itself. This can be via meditation or any form of introspection. Using introspection as a starting point, meditate on how attachment has wormed its way into your life in many, varying ways. Some of these ways might be very difficult to detect initially. 

As you channel your inner tiny buddha, you'll come to the realization that all the material things that you have attached emotions to, aren't your sole route to happiness. They are in actual fact, causing you pain and a lot of negative emotions

2. Accept your present

As we say most often now, it is what it is. The next step after meditating on the essence of attachments is to accept this very moment for what it is. Acknowledge the true nature of your present, instead of trying to turn it into your yesterday. As much as you can, fight the urge to make this moment last forever, by doing or saying something to your partner.

As much as possible, will your mind and body into simply being. Enjoy the feeling of hope that comes with living in the moment, and accept that everything that exists will eventually pass. Nothing is permanent and as such, what you're feeling might change as time goes on and that's okay too.  

3. Focus on the effect of your attachment

You've looked at all the things you hold on to, and you've absorbed your present moment for what it is. The next thing to do if you're seeking to move on is to meditate on what this specific attachment did to you. 

What caused this attachment? What were you hoping to gain from associating with this person or thing? As you ponder, you might come to the realization that these attachments were ideas, as opposed to being the thing themselves. After this exercise, you will begin to fully understand how best you can break free. 

4. Be fluid in defining yourself

And this has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. One other way to experience less pain after saying goodbye to a loved one or item is by simply redefining yourself. Humans, or living things in general, are characterized by change; by growth. Every day we evolve and grow thus, it is best to define yourself in a manner that you can withstand all the changes that come with growth. 

The best way to do this vis non-attachment is to avoid defining yourself by your roles, possessions, and even your relationships. In doing so, you don't lose who you are as soon as any of these things are no more. 

5. Don't squeeze tightly

For this point, we focus not only on letting things go but also on maintaining healthy rapport with people who mean a lot to you. We've all watched romantic comedies and all the romantic Disney cartoons where the term ‘other half’ is mentioned repeatedly. Real talk alert; you're nobody's other half. 

You are separate and a whole human and don't forget that. This doesn't mean don't hold a person close to your heart but rather, tread lightly and avoid squeezing them too tight to your chest. Your fingers might hurt, or they'll suffocate, and that will really hurt.

6. Befriend yourself

I know everyone is ranting about self-love, and it's become some sort of cliché, but it is true; being friends with yourself is magical. Think of yourself as your only best friend and as such, rely on yourself for all the happiness you need. When you give others the power to determine your happiness, it is harder to let them go because when that connection is lost, so is your happiness. 

Practice giving yourself a pep talk every day, telling yourself how amazing you are. Go on solo dates and love yourself hard. Then and only then will you have the power and will to relate to people without any expectations. 

7. Don't justify your attachment

You were in love with this person, and having to end things can be extremely painful. One thing you can do to make the blow less excruciating is to avoid justifying the reason you don't want to say goodbye. 

It is natural to feel as though you'll die with them gone, or that you'll be the most miserable person on the planet if they're not in your life. The truth, however, is that these thoughts are wrong. They are simply reinforcing beliefs, not factual information. Reset your mind, and think of yourself as strong enough to overcome this period in your life.