few months ago I had found myself in an awkward situation.
On this faithful day, I had decided to stay back in the office, to see to a few paperwork and rest my back for a while before leaving the office.
It was just about 8pm when someone walked into the office to inform me that a woman was asking of Mofe downstairs.
I asked that the woman be let in and was surprise to discover it was Irenimofes' mother.
Irenimofe had once been a member of staff who had resigned 8 months earlier, what could her mother be doing here?
Apparently the woman was stranded, looking at the two big bags with her, I knew she intend to spend the night at the staff quarters like she did the last time she came around.
I engaged her in a conversation only to discover she came all the way from Ikorodu to Berger (people who live or know Lagos very well will understand this is quite a long distance), without informing her child of her coming.
I called Irenimofe (her daughter) to inform her of her mothers' August visit so she could come pick her mother since she was living within berger axis (some where in Ogba).
The moment she heard her mother was around she ended the call and wouldn't pick my subsequent calls.
(That was how my distress started)
I called another of her daughter who I was acquainted with, she accepted to speak with her mother but they ended up battling words over the phone.
While I tried to find solution a to the problem and get this woman to safety and also go home because it was late, she kept nagging me because I called her second daughter (who she tagged irresponsible)
It was already 10pm yet none of her children was willing to get back to me as to what to do with their mother.
There was no way I will take her to the staff accommodation, and I had no idea where I could drop a troublesome woman to spend the night.
The problem was this;
°This woman was very troublesome and always throw accusations at people without proof.
~ Her husband left the house because of her troublesome way of life.
~ Three of her children left the house after secondary school and keep telling her lies over the phone, so she never finds them.
I fear she will grow old alone, live a lonely life and die with no one, no family and friend by her side.
After a long time, she realise she was alone and had no other option but to go back home.
She had only #100 with her, and at this point she didnt know what next to do.
It was already 11pm, I was left with no other option than to let her return home to Ikorodu despite the time and distance.
I gave her some amount of money and ensure she boarded a good transit.
I share this story with us because I see alot of people go through life alone, not because they do not have people who love them, but because their lifestyle affects their relationships.
Three misconceptions/myths you may have about relationship.
1. People will accept you just the way you are.
2. Building healthy relationships does not require any work.
3. People who are close to you have to share same views with you hence you consider them as enemies and pray against their progress.
♤♤♤ The belief that people have to accept you just the way you are regardless of the bad behaviour and lifestyle is not only wrong but self limiting.
No one accepts to eat a raw cassava until it has been processed to a finish product.
No one drinks raw cocoa as milo... No.
They were first processed to a refined state which people love and readily do or give anything to have!
This is also applicable to human.
It's a natural principle that can not be altered.
We may lack the privilege to choose family.
No one will stay or identify with you if you have a bad behaviour and lifestyle simply because you're family.
♤♤♤ Every relationship require conscious and deliberate work to grow into beautiful and profitable ones.
No one walks or wakes up into beautiful relationship.
They worked it out and every relationship e.g family, romantic, professional relationships etc, it all require work.
The way you intentionally make plans and put in effort to make money, is how relationship also require time, effort, sacrifice to be nourished and nutured into healthy and beautiful ones.
♤♤♤ Learn to accept peoples' view and opinion that negate yours without building blocks to lock them out while you end up in self inflicted prison.
No one was made to be in isolation, we were created to have beautiful relationships and this require work.
You need the right Knowledge to achieve this.
©️ Elvis Ifeanyi