Many relationships would still be standing right now if not for ego and false pride.

   

    Many relationships would still be standing right now if not for ego and false pride.

Because most times the solution to our biggest problem is a simple apology from the heart.

- I’m so sorry I messed up. Can we fix things? Please give us another chance. - But..

We’d rather, carry on grudges in our hearts for ages than apologize and admit that we were actually wrong and our actions hurt someone.

We’d rather, drag on issues that see it end because manipulation makes us powerful and gives us the illusion of dominance over someone.

We’d rather, not hear them out, take their calls, return their messages or even grant them an audience because of that false sense of superiority.

We’d rather, fill our soul with grief and self pity, replaying the situation over again instead of actually letting it go because we feel cheated, searching for an ungodly sense of justice.

We’d rather, cheat on our spouses, on our partners, we’d rather cut off ties with our friends than actually apologize for hurting them because we have an inflated sense of self worth.

We’d rather, make new friends or jump into fresh relationships than actually fixing the one we have broken all because we find it hard to apologize or admit that we actually hurt someone.

Many relationships would be waxing strong right now, If not for our nonchalance and unwillingness to actually improve on ourselves.

We’d rather, impose and force change on people than becoming that very change we want them to be. Leadership should be by example.

We’d rather, ask people to accept us for who we are even though -who we are- is a total mess, we expect them to prove their love by settling for a broken person, who doesn’t even want to be fixed.

We’d rather ask them to endure pain when we can stop putting them through pain. Why do they have to tolerate our arrogance and excesses that are fixable?

From my various encounters and experiences with humans, I have come to the realization that, No one, and I mean NO ONE, is actually broken beyond repair.

Men are not polygamous in nature; Women are not materialistic and all of our bad characters are not natural, they are things we pick up growing up.

No one should love a mess just to prove the quality of love. You don’t have to be in a toxic relationship to prove you are a loyal person and you certainly do not have to accommodate a serial cheat to show perseverance.

Loyalty. Perseverance and the quality of our love is not tested or proven through unrepentant serial cheating and toxicity, but through life and reality.

Cheating, Domestic violence, Disrespect and Toxicity are not part of life’s challenges, they are individual challenges result from weak characters.

You must do well to realize that, when you go through any of this, It is not reality that is unfair to you, It is the company you keep.

You must leave. You must force yourself to leave, There is always a better option than toxicity and domestic violence, even though may not be convenient, It is safer.

You must Stop blaming reality for your choice to stay back. It is your choice and in the end, when the die is cast, YOU CHOSE TO STAY!